I Want Help - I Just Don't Want It Used Against Me

What self-help books don’t talk about when your needs were never safe.

You want help — but not at the cost of guilt, being reminded later, or feeling like you owe something back.

So you do it yourself. You carry the mental load. You stay quiet.

And the resentment builds while you tell yourself you’re being reasonable.

 This guide is for you if:
• You do things yourself even when you’re exhausted
• Asking for help feels risky, not relieving
• You wait too long to speak, then feel resentful
• You’ve done therapy or self-help but still feel stuck here
• You want support without it being used against you